Fuck It: Be At Peace With Life, Just As It Is
Is there a gap between how you'd like things to be and how they are? It may be a small gap or a freaking enormous ravine, but that gap is, in fact, probably the primary cause of pain and unhappiness for most people. What if you said 'F**k It' to the idea of how your life should be and found peace with your life just as it is? That's going to shake things up and take the edge of your pain and discomfort way more than any pill could. John C. Parkin, the maestro of saying 'F**k It', realized as he worked with people on his retreats that we can close that gap not by striving to be different, changing the world or even learning how to peaceful - but by saying 'F**k It' and making our peace with life, just as it is. Being at peace with life doesn't necessarily mean being peaceful, and it certainly isn't being passive; it means embracing life in all its colours. This is a radical message that can create radical shifts in your perception of life, just as it is.
Fuck It: Be at Peace with Life, Just as It Is
I speak of peace because of the new face of war. Total war makes no sense in an age when great powers can maintain large and relatively invulnerable nuclear forces and refuse to surrender without resort to those forces. It makes no sense in an age when a single nuclear weapon contains almost ten times the explosive force delivered by all the allied air forces in the Second World War. It makes no sense in an age when the deadly poisons produced by a nuclear exchange would be carried by wind and water and soil and seed to the far corners of the globe and to generations yet unborn.
With such a peace, there will still be quarrels and conflicting interests, as there are within families and nations. World peace, like community peace, does not require that each man love his neighbor--it requires only that they live together in mutual tolerance, submitting their disputes to a just and peaceful settlement. And history teaches us that enmities between nations, as between individuals, do not last forever. However fixed our likes and dislikes may seem, the tide of time and events will often bring surprising changes in the relations between nations and neighbors.
In short, both the United States and its allies, and the Soviet Union and its allies, have a mutually deep interest in a just and genuine peace and in halting the arms race. Agreements to this end are in the interests of the Soviet Union as well as ours--and even the most hostile nations can be relied upon to accept and keep those treaty obligations, and only those treaty obligations, which are in their own interest.
We must, therefore, persevere in the search for peace in the hope that constructive changes within the Communist bloc might bring within reach solutions which now seem beyond us. We must conduct our affairs in such a way that it becomes in the Communists' interest to agree on a genuine peace. Above all, while defending our own vital interests, nuclear powers must avert those confrontations which bring an adversary to a choice of either a humiliating retreat or a nuclear war. To adopt that kind of course in the nuclear age would be evidence only of the bankruptcy of our policy--or of a collective death-wish for the world.
For we can seek a relaxation of tension without relaxing our guard. And, for our part, we do not need to use threats to prove that we are resolute. We do not need to jam foreign broadcasts out of fear our faith will be eroded. We are unwilling to impose our system on any unwilling people--but we are willing and able to engage in peaceful competition with any people on earth.
At the same time we seek to keep peace inside the non-Communist world, where many nations, all of them our friends, are divided over issues which weaken Western unity, which invite Communist intervention or which threaten to erupt into war. Our efforts in West New Guinea, in the Congo, in the Middle East, and in the Indian subcontinent, have been persistent and patient despite criticism from both sides. We have also tried to set an example for others--by seeking to adjust small but significant differences with our own closest neighbors in Mexico and in Canada.
Our interests converge, however, not only in defending the frontiers of freedom, but in pursuing the paths of peace. It is our hope-- and the purpose of allied policies--to convince the Soviet Union that she, too, should let each nation choose its own future, so long as that choice does not interfere with the choices of others. The Communist drive to impose their political and economic system on others is the primary cause of world tension today. For there can be no doubt that, if all nations could refrain from interfering in the self-determination of others, the peace would be much more assured.
Finally, my fellow Americans, let us examine our attitude toward peace and freedom here at home. The quality and spirit of our own society must justify and support our efforts abroad. We must show it in the dedication of our own lives--as many of you who are graduating today will have a unique opportunity to do, by serving without pay in the Peace Corps abroad or in the proposed National Service Corps here at home.
All this is not unrelated to world peace. "When a man's ways please the Lord," the Scriptures tell us, "he maketh even his enemies to be at peace with him." And is not peace, in the last analysis, basically a matter of human rights--the right to live out our lives without fear of devastation--the right to breathe air as nature provided it--the right of future generations to a healthy existence?
The United States, as the world knows, will never start a war. We do not want a war. We do not now expect a war. This generation of Americans has already had enough--more than enough--of war and hate and oppression. We shall be prepared if others wish it. We shall be alert to try to stop it. But we shall also do our part to build a world of peace where the weak are safe and the strong are just. We are not helpless before that task or hopeless of its success. Confident and unafraid, we labor on--not toward a strategy of annihilation but toward a strategy of peace.
"With all of the history of war, and the human race's history unfortunately has been a good deal more war than peace, with nuclear weapons distributed all through the world, and available, and the strong reluctance of any people to accept defeat, I see the possibility in the 1970's of the President of the United States having to face a world in which 15 or 20 or 25 nations may have these weapons." --"The President's News Conference of March 21, 1963 (107)," Public Papers of the Presidents: John F. Kennedy, 1963.
"No country can possibly move ahead, no free society can possibly be sustained, unless it has an educated citizenry whose qualities of mind and heart permit it to take part in the complicated and increasingly sophisticated decisions that pour not only upon the President and upon the Congress, but upon all the citizens who exercise the ultimate power...Quite obviously, there is a higher purpose, and that is the hope that you will turn to the service of the State the scholarship, the education, the qualities which society has helped develop in you; that you will render on the community level, or on the state level, or on the national level, or the international level a contribution to the maintenance of freedom and peace and the security of our country and those associated with it in a most critical time." --"Commencement Address at San Diego State College (226)," June 6, 1963, Public Papers of the Presidents: John F. Kennedy, 1963.
This has been with me from such a young age and I am just tired of life in general. Tired of memories and small triggers to past thoughts, Thats what gets me down and thinking how much better it would be if I could sleep and never wake up, Never open my eyes again and feel anything.
With ur lifetime of experience an yes, memories (which u would rather forget). You could help some many people. So, yes its selfish to live just for urself (no wonder ur disappointed with everything).
To be 46 & still alive to witness the atrocities we inflict on each other and on the natural world!! We are pathetic as a species and on borrowed time. Humans will always think they are more important than everything else, animals and Earth itself be damned. Humans here, step aside...Anyone with a heart and and compassion should have suicidal fantasies now and then. Some of us just feel sad & depressed & frustrated & exhausted for good reason & don't understand how anyone can be "happy" when there is so much abuse & violence & exploitation & poverty etc as we speak. One of my earliest memories is of seeing a dog get beat by my neighbor & wanting to rip the memory out of brain. I imagined that I could climb onto the roof of my house and jump off so I could forget. I was 4, maybe 5. F--k the people on this beautiful planet.
I can relate. Also wanting to die. Have for many years. Made some bad choices, and just feel hollow with everything after. No drug, experience or passion will ever fill the hole in my soul now, it's just a waiting game till the jig is up. Have also tried killing myself...just see no reason or value in any human action I take. And I am a teacher, I probably make some difference to someone..but what does that even matter? What a joke
I googled "I am waiting to die" and found your blog that resonates with me deeply. Here's the thing: I trained to be a therapist, I helped people through their trauma, their suicidality and to lead good happy lives. Yet, here I am. C-PTSD from childhood abuse, been exploited by many people, my body is falling apart (teeth, kidneys, liver and had several miscarriages). I have good days and bad days. When I work I go into "healthy mode". Today I am just waiting.
Im pretty sure i have always welcomed death. Like one of you said Im just not afraid of it. The fact that some react to this statement is strange to me. Like i am to them i guess. So technically we are all strange, which seems to be the norm. I feel normal. Most of you sound normal. I take comfort in that. I lived the life i chose. As a child i wasnt allowed to choose. So as an adult i chose, a lot! I still choose. On my own. Not without cause or reason. There is always a reason. A reason i can explain. If i cant explain it who will?! Even if it's to just explain it to myself. So, i would like to die, because im ready. And life has a way of bringing you what you want, when you are ready 041b061a72